For 34 months, Carol Voss nursed her husband through an illness that ended with his death on June 19. Now after more than 60 years, she is on her own. Over the past couple of years, she turned to Facebook to describe her confrontations with aging, with sickness, with death, and the interminable bureaucracy that faces grieving family members. Using social media as her diary, she openly shares her fears, her gratitude, her random observations and her wicked humor. With her permission, Voices of Monterey Bay is sharing passages from her Facebook page in diary form. The following is Part Two of a three-part series (read Part One here). Aug. 2 — On my mind is to tell all of you that if you have the luxury of time to face the reality of the impending death of a spouse as we did, check with the legal beagles and bean counters to get your estate in order. Even with all the ducks in a row, the simplest of stuff can be crazy. Know the SSNs and addresses of all your kids who will now become beneficiaries. The paperwork is unreal. Aug. 4 — Things might be moving too fast, which is good and bad. The senior jail has three openings at the end of the month. Now the house needs to be put up for ...